'If we must both be right we will lose each other’
Nayyirah Waheed Poet
Couples come to relationship counselling for a variety of reasons - though often there are underlying experiences of distance, disconnection and feeling unseen or misunderstood which have led to certain hurtful actions.
People naturally change through the course of a relationship. Life experiences and events occur and when reactions differ from each individual there can be disturbance and confusion .. and at times it can be extremely hard to share vulnerable and difficult feelings and thoughts for fear of hurting the other.
How Can Therapy Help?
Therapy offers a safe non-judgemental space to begin to re-connect, share and understand what's happening individually and within the relationship.
I work with couples to help guide and facilitate an honest communication, maintaining direction keeping the relationship as the focal point. I keep in mind each partners patterns of relating (formed developmentally) and how these are interacting alongside exploring practical ways to affect change.
Staying together may not always be the desired outcome - I work with the growing area of couples who are separating but mindful of doing so respectfully where for example children are involved.
I also work with other dyadic relationships such as family members .. for example mother and daughters and friends.